How to Become Your Best Self – A Step by Step Guide

How can I become my best self? Where can I learn how to become my best self? What are the benefits of getting out of my comfort zone? In this article, learn powerful ways about how to become the best you.

Hi, I am Sean Galla, a men’s support groups facilitator for over 10 years. My support groups strive to teach men how to become their best selves. Dedicating your time and mindset to becoming the best you can profoundly affect different areas of your life. This article will teach you everything you need to know about becoming your best self and why it is essential.

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Sean Galla

An experienced facilitator, community builder and Peer Support Specialist, Sean has been running men's groups for 10+ years. Read Sean's Full Author Bio.


Becoming the best version of yourself is all about understanding self-improvement.

Self-improvement looks different to different people depending on their goals. For instance, if you want to improve your physique, self-care, maintaining a proper diet, weightlifting, or exercising will help you achieve your goal. If you want to improve your work, you must invest in courses that will make you better qualified for better roles.

For men, the road to self-actualization is always a conscious attempt to become better in every way possible. This occurs when you finally decide you need a significant positive change in your life. This can be triggered by different factors like loss, becoming a dad, getting a new job, and many other reasons. When you are dedicated to self-development, you become a well-balanced man who is always searching for wisdom and self-growth.

What does it mean to be your best self?

Being the best you means being able to live authentically. It means remaining grounded in your belief system while being open enough to learn. It also means staying true to yourself and aligning your life with your values.

When you are at your best, you know your priorities, and you work daily towards your goals. Being your best self aligns you with your aspirations and strengths. It requires you to look after your physical and mental health.

You are self-aware. While focusing on your strengths, you also know your weaknesses and what holds you back. Committing to learning how to become your best self is an endless journey of self-discovery and self-development.

This journey involves learning new skills, changing your mindset, and forming new habits as you let go of old ones that no longer serve your best interests.

If this sounds like something you are interested in, here is how to become the best version of yourself in 2024 and beyond.


Useful strategies to become your best self

Stop delaying the process

Many people are interested in self-development; however, very few set the plan in motion. If you have been delaying your start, it is time to start taking baby steps.

The first step in self-development and living your best life is starting. While making the initial leap may be scary and challenging, it is a necessary part of beginning the process.

Understand your priorities

What matters to you? Is it finally getting your Ph.D., or getting a promotion at work? Do you plan to run a marathon or invest more in your wellness and wellbeing? Come up with a list of your priorities by hierarchy. If you plan to work on some of your priorities or become better at them, writing them down helps put everything you do into perspective.

Define your version of success

Even the best self-help podcasts will tell you, success looks different for everyone. When you do not have a clear idea of what a successful life would look like to you, it is easy to start comparing yourself to others. And, in a world where appearances, money and productivity define success, you may feel inadequate.

Knowing what success looks like to you is all about finding your true north. It makes it easier to set goals to help you get there. Remember, success can be anything you want it to be. Try not to get sucked in by external influences trying to put you in a box of what success looks like.

Set goals

When working on becoming your best, you need to have a few goals in mind. Success is, after all, made up of little things done day in day out.

Goal setting begins with visualizing your own life. You need to visualize what you want to achieve and determine why you need to achieve it. Once you know what your goals are, you need to come up with action plans to achieve these goals. When you work with a goal, you are better prepared to make choices that align with your goal.

When it comes to goal setting, you need to work with deadlines. You can have big and smaller goals. Ensure you determine deadlines for all these goals.  

Stop sweating the small stuff

In life, unexpected events and delays will always occur. Through your self-improvement and self-discovery journey, you will have very good days and some bad days. You must allow yourself to fail and take every setback as a learning curve to becoming the best version of yourself. There is nothing wrong with failing. Keep focusing on the end goal, commit to regular practice, and don’t give up.

Be open to receiving help

The road to becoming the best you can be must not be travelled alone. In fact, you have a higher chance of succeeding if you are surrounded by like-minded people cheering you on. Life coaches, loved ones or friends can go a long way in making your journey less lonely.

Also, joining a men’s self-awareness group like MensGroup can connect you to like-minded men on the self-improvement journey. Here, you can learn and get the moral support and advice you need to become who you want to become.

Eliminate toxic relationships

For you to succeed in your goal, the people you surround yourself with should be dedicated to helping you attain your self-improvement goals.

Most people fail to attain their self-improvement goals because they are still stuck in their old ways. The people you surround yourself with should be people who can teach you values for self-improvement as you work to challenge the status quo.

It is better to have your best friend who influence your life positively than to be surrounded by tens of people who add no value to your life. To start living a better life, you need to eliminate toxic relationships.


Adopt a healthy lifestyle

When working to become your best self as a man, how you feel about yourself is essential to your journey and overall self-esteem. It is vital to ensure your self-love process matches your goals.

Exercising is one of the best ways to boost your self-esteem by achieving your desired body. It is also crucial for better mental health.

When you are in better shape, you can do more and feel confident enough to do it. Self-improvement is learning to take care of your physical and mental health. A healthy body will positively impact your mental health and boost your self-confidence. Remember to say your positive affirmations every day.

Minimize time spent on social media

In a world where technological advancements happen daily, most of our lives are tethered to gadgets and the internet. While technology is not inherently bad, spending too much time on social media platforms like X, Facebook, TikTok, and Instagram can lead to wasted time.

Unless it is work-related or educational, part of becoming your best self is cutting your time on social media platforms. Besides saving you a ton of time, it protects you from comparison and self-doubt.

Celebrate your wins and reward yourself

One of the best things you can do when learning to be your best self is to set up a reward system for milestones and accomplished goals. Celebrating your big and small wins is vital to keeping you motivated.

Seeing yourself achieving milestones will boost your self-confidence and give you the motivation to keep going.

Join a support group

Even when surrounded by friends and loved ones cheering you on, it helps to have a group of men who truly understand the journey to self-discovery from personal experiences.

One of the best things you can do on your journey to becoming your best is to join a men-only self-improvement support group like MensGroup.

Self-improvement support groups are a wealth of resources and support. Being in a group will keep you grounded and focused on your goals and hold you accountable. Remember, self-improvement is a lifelong process, and it helps to be surrounded by people who will always have our back.

About MensGroup

If you are interested in self-improvement, mensgroup is an online men-only group. It seeks to mentor men and equip them with resources to become better versions of themselves. Whatever self-improvement goal you want to achieve, the mentors on are ready to help you achieve it.

At Men’s Group, men can share their fears, dreams, and hopes in a safe space. It is the perfect self-improvement platform for all men, including young adult males looking for a space to learn and grow without fear of judgment or ridicule. You will be in the company of other men who also have gone through the same issues and managed to find healing and direction to better their lives.


Self-improvement and personal growth can change your life for the better. For any man, self-improvement is the key to reaching your best potential.

Being part of a support platform can go a long way to ensure you achieve your goals. is a men’s resource centre that can mold you into the man you wish to become. If you want to learn how to be your best self and do not know where to start, joining MensGroup can place you on the way to total self-improvement.