Cheating Girlfriend: 7 Common Signs Men Should Look Out For

Am I dating a cheating girlfriend? Is my girlfriend a cheater? Is my girlfriend having an affair? Is my girlfriend hiding things from me? What are the red flags of a cheating girlfriend? Why do girlfriends cheat? How should I handle a cheating girlfriend? If you are a boyfriend looking for answers to these or any more cheating questions, this article is for you.

Hi. My name is Sean Galla. I am a facilitator of support groups and support forums for men, with more than 10 years of experience. My job as a relationship expert includes facilitating support forums for men, including relationship support forums. In these forums, men come together for advice, guidance, and support for different issues affecting men, including cheating in monogamous relationships. If you are looking for advice about cheating or how to handle a cheating girlfriend, fiancée, or wife, joining a support group is the first step in the right direction.

In this article, you will find information about what it looks like when women cheat and how to catch a cheating girlfriend.

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Cheating and Relationships

Cheating and Relationships

Research indicates that 42% of women who cheat do so because they find appealing alternatives, while another important driver, accounting for 40% of instances, is influenced by genetic factors. These insights shed light on the complexities surrounding infidelity and can help guide your approach in handling suspicions or concerns about your relationship.

While it is often said that ignorance is bliss, this saying does not apply in relationships where honesty and trust form the backbone of any healthy relationship, especially a long-distance one. Finding out that your girlfriend who is your best friend is cheating on you is one of the most heartbreaking moments. It suddenly dawns on you how blinded you were by your love for her.

Infidelity is one of the most challenging aspects of any relationship. When you suspect that your girlfriend is cheating, choosing to confirm your suspicion in the first place can be the beginning of the end of a relationship and can make it difficult for you to trust again. However, finding out whether she is cheating is paramount as cheating can come with a lot of baggage, including STDs.

Being cheated on is the ultimate betrayal in a relationship for most men. While most girls can forgive a cheating boyfriend, most men find it hard to forgive a cheating girlfriend or cheating wife even if it is the first time cheating. This is mainly because men think of sex as the most intimate way to connect with a woman.

If you have a gut feeling that your girlfriend is cheating, it is important to confirm this suspicion before deciding how to move forward.

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Signs of a Cheating Girlfriend

She suddenly seems inseparable from her phone

When you first met, she hardly used her phone except for answering a call or responding to a text. There were no secrets between you. However, you notice that she now seems more interested in her phone and being on every social media site.

While phone behavior can change for other reasons, it can also be a sign of cheating. If you notice that she suddenly finds it hard to leave her phone near you or places its screen facing down, there is a chance she is trying to hide some conversations from you.

Loss of interest in sex

If you have been in a romantic relationship for a while, then you are well aware of your sex routine. If your routine suddenly changes, with less interest in sex on her part, she may be having her needs met outside of your relationship. This is especially likely if you have already ruled out other possible causes of her low libido. If the only reason you are having less sex is that she is bored or not in the mood, it may be a sign of cheating.

Sudden changes in her social life

When you started off, you and your significant other used to spend almost all your free time together. However, she suddenly seems to have plans and new hobbies for all her free time, and she is not inviting you to these new engagements. If you find it hard to make her commit to quality time together, it is probably because she is getting affection from another man. While independence is healthy in a relationship, a sudden change in her social life may mean she is looking for a new relationship.

Sudden change in wardrobe for sexier clothing

If your girlfriend is suddenly spending a lot of time and money on new lingerie and a sexy wardrobe but never seems to wear them for you, this can be a sign of cheating. A significant change in her wardrobe may mean that she dresses up to impress someone else.

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She suddenly cares more about her privacy

This is one of the most classical warning signs of cheating girlfriends. When your girlfriend suddenly starts to guard her phone using passwords, or using new passwords, and taking it everywhere, chances are she is talking to someone else and trying to hide it.

You will notice her phone is suddenly always buzzing with text messages and phone calls, which was not the case before. If you ask her who she is talking to, she will say a friend and dismiss the issue before asking more questions.

Picking fights

Picking fights even over things you wouldn’t fight over before is a common sign of cheating and her way of discrediting the relationship to justify her affair. Picking fights makes it easy for her to claim that your committed relationship is not working, hence the reason for seeing other people.

Telling lies

If you are suddenly catching your girlfriend in small white lies for no apparent reason, it may signify that she is hiding something more significant. When someone is cheating, her lies do not match up to the timeline, and they find it hard to justify coming home later than usual or having to run many errands all of a sudden that take longer than they usually would.

She will lie about everything, including the undiscussed charges in your credit card statements or bank account charge for her new clothes.

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How to Catch a Cheating Girlfriend

How to Catch a Cheating Girlfriend

If you have a gut feeling that your girlfriend is cheating, there are certain steps you can take to determine this for sure.

Go through her phone

The first thing you can do is go through her phone to look for any telltale signs of cheating. While this is an invasion of privacy, it is sometimes a necessary evil to get to the bottom of your suspicion. Most cheating girlfriends save their affair partner’s contact under false names, making it hard to find the contact. However, scrolling through conversation may lead you to the answers you seek.

Check out her social media pages

According to research, social media platforms like WhatsApp or Snapchat are the largest vehicles cheating partners use for communication. Going through her social media messages may give you the answers you are looking for.

Look for dating apps and other suspicious apps.

Most cheating women have profiles on one of the many dating sites available. Also, most people will use communication apps such as Telegram that have timers on chats. If she uses a new messaging app but has never contacted you on it, chances are she used it to communicate with other men.

Catch her in the act

One of the best ways to catch a cheating girlfriend is by finding a way to catch up in the act. If you are convinced that she is cheating, you can try to determine where they meet and show up during one of their meetings. While stalking her is not recommended, it will finally help you solve the mystery.

Ask her

If the methods above do not suit your conscience, you can consider asking her upfront about the affair. Be sure you observe her body language as you have the face-to-face conversation, as this will tell you whether she is being honest or not. If your girlfriend gets tensed up and starts fidgeting or avoiding eye contact, the chances are that she is being dishonest. You can also ask her for permission to go through her phone at the moment and see if she agrees. Shifting blame and avoiding the real issue is also a sign of lying.

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How to Handle a Cheating Girlfriend

Being in love with a cheater can put you in a tough position where you are forced to choose between your love for her/relationship or choosing your mental health and breaking up a relationship that only gives you a broken heart.

Talk to a professional

Making such huge life decisions is not always easy. To ensure you are in the right frame of mind to make the best decision for yourself, it is advisable to seek relationship advice from a family therapist or relationship counselor. They will help you sort through the emotions and find your footing as you plan to take the next steps.

Join a support group

Sharing your experience with family members or friends is not always the easiest thing when you find yourself on the receiving end of infidelity because it affects your self-esteem. An infidelity support group is a forum where you meet other infidelity survivors in a judgment-free and safe space.

Infidelity support groups like make it possible for men to connect with fellow men through video and chat.

About MensGroup

About MensGroup

Men associate infidelity in their relationship with failure and ridicule. This makes it hard for them to speak about their feelings and emotions after they are cheated on.

If you are a man on the receiving end of infidelity, Men’s Group offers a safe space to share, learn, and heal. This is an all-men online infidelity support group where you meet other male survivors of infidelity.

Here, members can share in confidence and without fear of judgment. Men hurt too, and at, you have a place to vent and find healing.


Finding out that your girlfriend is cheating can be heartbreaking for any man. It is said that time heals all wounds. However, the best way to heal the hurt caused is by joining a support group. Support groups for infidelity survivors offer a safe place that works to see you through the healing process. Our community at will guide you through the healing process and overcome the trauma caused by a cheating girlfriend.

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