You might be actively in therapy or considering trying it out.
But the challenge with therapy is that you only get perspective from ONE person AND you lose your support the moment the session is over.
This is tough for men because most guys feel like they don’t have anyone to talk to about the things they are facing in life.
Research shows the majority of guys don’t have any friends they can confide in. Most guys were never shown how to find and make supportive friendships. After school years the studies show that guys progressively lose friends as they get older.
Guys get busier and have more commitments so making friends becomes more challenging.
And even if a guy does have friends, chances are they won’t be able to relate to the challenges that he is facing. Nor will he want to burden them with his problems.
As men, we’re conditioned to believe that we need to only rely on ourselves. That we need to be solo sailors.
This is a lie, told to men, through the lens of toxic masculinity.
The truth is that men have always had a community. Real community.
In tribal days – which is 99% of human history – men regularly went out to hunt in groups.
Think of who your grandfather worked with, or the men you knew growing up. They had guys they played cards with, went fishing with, and had a sense of closeness that doesn’t exist today.
These men knew they could call their buddy up and he’d be over in a moment to help with a leaky pipe, to help chop down a tree, or troubleshoot a car problem. These are the kinds of guys that will be there to confide in if you’re facing personal issues as well.
If you lack these kinds of men in your life, all the research shows that it is hurting your wellbeing. You need men who support you, respect you, and want the best for you. Guys who will be happy to lend an ear, empathize and come up with a plan of attack.
That’s what we do here at MensGroup.