How can you know if a men’s group will be a good fit for you or not?
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If you’re curious about men’s groups but hesitant, I get it. When I went looking for my first group, I didn’t want to waste time, feel out of place, or be pushed to overshare with a bunch of strangers. I worried men’s groups were for “other guys.” Turns out, the truth is simpler: finding the right men’s group is like finding the right car or therapist—you’ve got to test-drive a few.
Here’s the straight goods:
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Don’t judge a group by the website or the leader’s pitch. With confidentiality, you can’t really know until you sit in a meeting. Some “perfect on paper” groups won’t click. Others you’re unsure about might end up changing your life.
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Expect to sample a few. We’re all different—personalities, communication styles, what we need right now. One size never fits all. Attend a handful and trust your gut.
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Not all formats are the same. You’ll find church/community-center circles, small groups run out of a garage, dinner meetups in private rooms, ritual-heavy weekend retreats, adventure-based trips, and online options. Each has a vibe. Pick what suits your season.
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Online groups can be a smart entry point. They’re convenient, discreet, and lower cost. You can even just listen at first, build trust, and share when you’re ready. That’s why I built MensGroup.com—to make it easy for guys to drop in, learn, and connect on their own terms.
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Keep an open mind. My first group wasn’t a fit—the coach talked too much and the ceremonial stuff wasn’t me. But I met one solid friend there (still in my life today). And the group I almost skipped? That one ended up improving my relationships, wealth, and day-to-day fulfillment in a big way.
If you’ve been waiting for a sign, this is it. Pick two or three groups and try them in the next couple of weeks. Notice how you feel during and after: Did you feel heard? Did the format help you open up? Did you leave with clarity or a next step?
I’m filming a follow-up on red flags and green flags—quick tells that a group will be a waste of time vs. worth it. Watch for that soon.
