Russell Brand, an English comedian, actor, activist, and radio host, talks about surviving a breakup in the video below. He explains that breakups can hurt tremendously because the future you were picturing in your head disappears with the person who left. “You have to recognize that the reality that you constructed together will not be lived,” he said in the video.
5 Steps For Surviving
He explains that the first step is to accept that the breakup was meant to happen.
Brand explains that realizing that the only person you can control is yourself. And realizing that will help you through the breakup.
Don’t put all of your eggs into one basket
The third step is understanding that you can not put all of your happiness and wellbeing into one person. Know that you need to find happiness in yourself without searching for that in someone else.
Learning to let go
“The next step is to learn how to let go and move on,” Brand said. This might be easier said than done, but time will help.
Trust the future
Trust that the future will all work out and everything will be okay. And he explains that you will eventually find someone more appropriate and compatible. On the other hand, you might want to check our article on Dr. Rangan Chatterjee as he talks about why men are so lonely.
Know That the Greatest Love Is Within Yourself
Brand uses advice from Whitney Houston’s famous quote, “Learning to love yourself, is the greatest love all.” Russell and Whitney are both saying that self-love needs to be found before loving someone else. Know that if your partner broke up with you, you’ll be okay. You might feel sadness, anger, or loneliness for a while after a breakup but the negative emotions will eventually go away.
Buzzfeeders Talk About Their Breakups
Buzzfeed put together a video of guys talking about the worst ways they have been broken up with and also the worst ways they have broken up with someone else. “We were at a cast party for a musical we were in and just, like halfway through because I said something weird, she said we were through. I thought she was joking!”
The interviewer asked them “how do you know when a relationship should end?” And most of the guys all had different answers to this complex question. One believed that a relationship should end once the couple has stopped communicating. Another one answered that they think it is time to break up with a person when you are trying to figure out how to break up with them.
“There is no one that knows like, oh this relationship has run its course. Let’s get out now while we’re both still happy with it. It’s like a relationship has to get into this murky, soggy, gross period before you both have the courage to be like, this is bad, isn’t it,” One of the guys answered.
In summary, most people have broken up with someone or have been broken up with. This is a common thing in life and there are steps to take to survive the pain of breakups. Joining a Men’s Group session can help you get through the ups and downs of breakups.