Shia Labeouf & Jon Bernthal – Reconciling Not Showing Up for Someone Important

Showing up for the people you love is one of the best ways to show support and express your love towards them. Shia Labeouf shares what it means to him for someone to show up for you when you are at your lowest.

Shia Labeouf is an American actor, performance artist, and filmmaker. He played Louis Stevens in the Disney Channel Series Even Stevens, a role for which he received Young Artist Award nominations in 2001 and 2002 and won a Daytime Emmy Award in 2003. He made his film debut in The Christmas Path (1998). In 2004, he made his directorial debut with the short film Let’s Love Hate and later directed a short film titled Maniac (2011), starring American Rappers Cage and Kid Cudi.


I wound up at this rehab right um in Utah, and they do something called family week, and every week on a Sunday, everybody who’s involved in the program has their family show up on these Skype calls, and everybody will show up in the same room.”

Week one, no one showed up for me no one but no one showed up. My mother, my father, no one, no one showed up. Manager of friends, no one showed up. Week two, same thing happened.”

Shia expresses his gratitude to his wife, who was there for him at his lowest time when his own family and friends did not want anything to do with him. He speaks of how his now wife showed up for him even after he had taken her through numerous issues.

To enter my life to be with me, she had to take a loss she had to like to eat [shit] to be with me. To be with me, she had to re-enter being a part of my life. She had to take a hit.”

What I know love to be is selfless loving action and I’ve never known anything as loving or as selflessly active as what this woman did for me.”

Shia credits his willingness to recover to his wife, highlighting how important it was for him that she showed up when she did. This shows the critical role family and friends can play in helping someone in rehab heal and recover.

Sometimes, a supportive hand is the only thing standing in the way of a person fully recovering or developing the willingness to keep fighting.

She was present for me at a time when I didn’t deserve to have nobody in my life, especially her. She gave me hope when I was really running on fumes.”

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